Thursday, June 09, 2005
Observations
I've really been thinking about killing this thing. I guess I just don't feel the same satisfaction as some people by posting my every thought and feeling for the world to see. At any rate, sometimes the urge does hit...and that's why this is still here.
I've spent a lot of time lately observing people my age. People I've met here, people I know from work, people from various past lives...everyone really. One very common theme is marriage. Big surprise, right? The difference seems to be in how people approach it. Nat and I got married after 2 years of dating and over a year of being engaged. We didn't rush into the "I love yous" and "I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you." There was an emotional attachment there that wasn't rushed. At the time it was an absolutely madening experience, but looking back it allowed me to get to know Nat without thinking about forever...at least initially.
Lately there seems to be this trend of physically we will take everything slowly (some people to the point of not kissing until the wedding day--I know multiple people here), but emotionally we are going to be looking to the day we get married from day one. The physical part I don't care about--it's quite honestly none of my business, but the emotional connection is well...It's a bizzarre phenomenon to me. One that I can't seem to grasp the concept of.
Now I can't say that either method is right or wrong. I realize that what works for some, doesn't work for others. I just don't get it. I feel like in order to truly love someone you know to KNOW them. You have to understand that there are things about them that you don't like, but that you are ok with that.
Marriage is not all warm fuzzy feelings and happy thoughts. There's laundry to be done, dishes to be washed, bills to pay. Every night is not candlelight and roses...sometimes it's frozen pizza and a DVD. Don't get me wrong, it's wonderful...I wouldn't trade it for the world, but it's something you have to work your way into.
What am I getting at here? Basically nothing. Really I'm just making an observation about how relationships progress. I'll be interested to see how they move along from here....
I've spent a lot of time lately observing people my age. People I've met here, people I know from work, people from various past lives...everyone really. One very common theme is marriage. Big surprise, right? The difference seems to be in how people approach it. Nat and I got married after 2 years of dating and over a year of being engaged. We didn't rush into the "I love yous" and "I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you." There was an emotional attachment there that wasn't rushed. At the time it was an absolutely madening experience, but looking back it allowed me to get to know Nat without thinking about forever...at least initially.
Lately there seems to be this trend of physically we will take everything slowly (some people to the point of not kissing until the wedding day--I know multiple people here), but emotionally we are going to be looking to the day we get married from day one. The physical part I don't care about--it's quite honestly none of my business, but the emotional connection is well...It's a bizzarre phenomenon to me. One that I can't seem to grasp the concept of.
Now I can't say that either method is right or wrong. I realize that what works for some, doesn't work for others. I just don't get it. I feel like in order to truly love someone you know to KNOW them. You have to understand that there are things about them that you don't like, but that you are ok with that.
Marriage is not all warm fuzzy feelings and happy thoughts. There's laundry to be done, dishes to be washed, bills to pay. Every night is not candlelight and roses...sometimes it's frozen pizza and a DVD. Don't get me wrong, it's wonderful...I wouldn't trade it for the world, but it's something you have to work your way into.
What am I getting at here? Basically nothing. Really I'm just making an observation about how relationships progress. I'll be interested to see how they move along from here....
